"We never know the love of a parent til we become parents ourselves"
-Henry Ward Beecher
The memories we have of our childhood help shape our life. The way we remember certain events can affect the way we react to things that happen in our day to day life.
Connecting these events to our feelings, emotions and reactions is an important step to understanding why we do the things the way we do, why we act and react to people and situations.
Our parents greatly influence us, from DNA to our views of our self and of life. Our parents do the best they can with what they know. Sometimes our parents knew a lot, however sometimes they were limited.
When they were limited, we learned to be limited in our reactions, we learned to be fearful of certain situations and from there we made certain decisions that ultimately affect our life.
It is when these decisions clearly do not serve us any longer, they keep us living in fear, paralyses us. Ultimately keeps us from moving forward and feeling burden free.
This exercise is to help us identify all the characteristics of our parents. Take a blank piece of paper put your Father/Mother’s name in the center with a circle around it. Write all of their qualities and characteristics and flaws, everything you can think of as you experienced them.
When you have completed this for each of you parents, take some time to look at all the qualities of your Mother and then Father, circle the qualities that you believe you have also. This is an opportunity for you to have real honesty with yourself, it is important that you take the time you need.
You see we inherit certain qualities, characteristics and beliefs from our parents. Our experiences from childhood pave the way for the choices we make.
So if you have unresolved issues with your parents it’s time to realize that if you didn’t have the parents you did, if they were different, then you would have lived your life completely different.
Think of all the ways you wanted to be different from your parent or parents. Think about how that affected how you are today. Now think of all the ways you are the same.
Our lives are divine. Our lives are divinely shaped from the tough lessons, we learn to find our way, and we discover what qualities and characteristics we like about ourselves. We know our patterns. We learn that we can choose how we react to every situation.
We then know that we can move to a level of appreciation for our parents. Knowing that they did the best they could with what they knew and because we are fortunate enough to have access to knowing more, the more we know the better we do.
Who you are at the core is exactly who you are supposed to be, and all of who we are is shaped by the life we lead.
You may not have had much say in the unfolding of your childhood but the beauty of where you are now is that you have all the power, you get to decide how everything will unfold from this day forward.
Integrating this knowledge will open up a new way of viewing your life, and it will inspire you to feel empowered.
“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding” -Khalil Gibran']Posted: Thursday, August 25th, 5:46pm 3 years ago
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